Parenting philosophy is essentially how a parent sees as correct child-rearing. It includes all the beliefs and knowledge formed from experiences and learning. It is how a parent envisions a child growing up under his/her care. Who determines therefore whether a particular parenting philosophy is correct if it is a matter of personal view?
Setting aside personal parenting philosophies first, let us first consider the general philosophies which most sound parenting philosophies are more or less based on. These are the basic truths that no parent should disregard. When these are taken into consideration, parents are able to come up with philosophies that will not only be beneficial to themselves but to their children as well.
1. Parents and children are both entitled to respect. They may have differing views, opinions, and behavior but parents will have to understand that control is not tantamount to respect.
2. Discipline has a place in a family and a home for without it, chaos arises. Parents need to differentiate between discipline and violence for they are not the same.
3. Parents have the responsibility of teaching their children the basic skills to help to help them cope with life. This responsibility is not passed on to others especially when it is difficult to perform.
4. Parents need to give time to be with their children, and be there for their children. Given the different circumstances of parents, this is expected to be performed in the best possible way as individual circumstances will allow.
5. Parents have to know their children and be sensitive to their needs. This is only possible when time has been given to attain it.
People sometimes tend to carry over the philosophies of their parents, whether intentionally or not. Some would like to be the exact opposite of their parents. Each parent is entitled to form his or her own philosophy with the underlying motive of finding the best way to raise up a child into becoming responsible adults.
Originally posted on October 1, 2012 @ 10:16 am